What Your Sexual Dreams Mean

by Head for Dreams

Sexual dreams are a good gauge of your overall libido level, and while Freud said sometimes a cigar is just a cigar, he also obsessed in his semi-repressive Victorian times that sex dreams were always about something more.

If you think Freud was right here’s a quick guide to some possible ways to decode aspects of your sexual dreams.

Dreams about sex

Dreaming about cheating on your partner with someone you know

In general, if you dream of cheating on your partner, this could indicate dissatisfaction in your relationship and a desire for variety, adventure, and sexual stimulation that you’re not finding in your present love affair. This dream could represent your internal struggle with loyalty, guilt, shame, and commitment issues.

If you dream of your lover cheating on you, you may be processing feelings of insecurity, and inadequacy, and prompt you to think about how you might weather the storm should it come to pass in waking reality.

Regardless of whether the person you cheat on in your dream is a stranger, ask yourself what this person represents to you. In other words, are they charming, handsome, risk-taking, sensible, or adventurous? Consider these may be qualities you desire but, haven’t (yet) permitted yourself to express in your own life.

When you cheat on your partner with a stranger

If the person you are cheating on is a stranger, it may be a message that you are wanting to explore outside your comfort zone, as in trying a new position, or approach your familiar lover with fresh excitement, as if it were a foreign affair.

Such dreams about strangers or acquaintances (and men are more apt to dream about strangers than women do) are usually a good indicator of the state of your libido. Your brain is trying to let you know that those physical needs are not getting met. Find a good and safe way to help your brain out.

Dream about having a threesome

Dreams of a threesome signify that you may have split your feelings by falling in love with a person other than your significant other. Or it could suggest that change is in the midst, especially if there is a third wheel (a person, project, or even work) getting in the way.

Threesome Dreams

When you dream about your ex

If you dream of sex with an ex, it doesn’t necessarily mean that you long to be with that person. Such dreams are often an attempt to retrieve energy, power, or an important aspect of yourself that you may have left behind with your ex, perhaps a part of your heart you feel is missing.

Consider that your ex represents an aspect of you and it is now time to embrace it to become more powerful in your current life and in the relationship you are now in.

Over time, as you create new experiences and memories, your brain should create new circuits and your dreams will readjust.

When you watch yourself have sex

Watching yourself have sex would be about gaining objectivity, appreciation, and/or clarity about your sexuality. Often dreams show us what’s in our blind spot, so, this dream may be showing something you’ve missed, something to change, or something to explore in waking reality that would’ve never dawned on you normally.

When you watch someone else have sex

If you are watching a sexual act in a dream, this may reveal your aloof, detached relationship strategy: being more comfortable dreaming about the relationship of your dreams than realising it.

Conversely, dreams of being a voyeur can help you can gain objectivity about your strategies. Additionally, this dream may be telling you that if you remain aloof in your relationships—avoid the pain of being on the playing field.

Dream about sex with a friend

Remember that dreams are symbolic and not literal, and they are a symbol of intimate connection. Did you recently fight with this person?

Joining with him or her in your dream could be symbolic of reconciliation, empathy, or merging with and understanding their point of view or the qualities they represent.

Dream about having sex with a friend

When you have sex with someone you hate

If you have sex with someone you dislike or hate, you are working out the parts of yourself that may be sabotaging your ability to manifest the love you desire.

Contemplate the qualities of your dream enemy (cruel, overbearing, critical, selfish) and consider how you demonstrate those qualities in your life, toward yourself or your lover. Once you’ve explored this, think about alternate, less destructive ways to express yourself and meet your needs.

Dream about having an orgasm

These highly pleasurable dreams are healthy and natural and occur as a result of a lack of inhibition during the dream state. It denotes a sense of fulfilment, wholeness, and awareness of your pleasure principle.

Dream about getting or giving oral sex

Since the penis is the symbol of masculine power and desire, and the mouth is the symbol of communication and self-expression, dreaming of a blow job reflects your desire to communicate what you are passionate about.

This dream can also signify issues of giving versus receiving pleasure. Contemplate any issues you might have regarding the power gained from being in control versus the vulnerability of being out of control. Are you on your knees, showing humility in your relationship? Or does having your most intimate sense of self in the hands and mouth of your lover make you feel vulnerable?

Dreams of cunnilingus describe your connection to the feminine power of receptivity. If you dream of giving it, you may desire to please the feminine impulse within you. If you are on the receiving end, then you may be exploring the depth of your vulnerability in your life. Do you need to be more or less vulnerable?

When you dream about seducing someone

Dreams of a being seducer or seductress symbolise sexual desires, manipulation, and short-term ego tricks to gain momentary power.

This dream may be an opportunity for you to think about a struggle you might be having with what you want versus what you know is good for you.

Also Read: Threesome Dream Meaning

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