Being cheated on in a dream can often feel so real that you go and accuse your spouse, boyfriend, girlfriend or significant other of it. Such dreams are unsettling and disturbing. It often leaves you questioning your relationship. Often dreams about infidelity are rarely about cheating, but rather more about your feelings of insecurity. So what is this dream exactly about?
Being cheated on points to neglect
A lack of attention from your mate may trigger a dream where your mate is having an affair. Since they are not paying attention to you, then you start to think that their attention is focused on someone else. Perhaps your significant other is working longer hours or travelling more or spending more time at the gym. All are innocent, but your dreaming mind manifests time spent away from you as an affair.
Being cheated on points to fear of abandonment
To dream that your mate, spouse, or significant other is cheating on you also indicates your fears of being abandoned. You are concerned about the future and whether your significant other will be there for you. Perhaps you are waiting for a commitment from your significant other. Often such dreams may occur because you were abandoned before by an ex, by a parent or important person in your life.
Being cheated on points to low self-esteem
When you feel unworthy, inadequate or that you do no measure up to the expectation of others, you may dream that your lover is cheating on you. You have a low sense of self-worth and feel that there is no reason for your mate to stay with you. Consider who your significant other is cheating within your dream. Is this person someone who you think is better than you in some way? Are they handsome, prettier, thinner, richer, smarter, etc?
Being cheated on points to lack of trust
Trust is an important element in a relationship. If that trust is compromised, then you may express doubt in the relationship. One of these doubts can manifest itself as an adulterous dream.
Being cheated on points to actual cheating
In rare cases, your cheating dream may be about actual cheating in your relationship. You may be overlooking cues or hints that your subconscious is picking up to indicate that your significant other is not being completely truthful or is not fully committed in the relationship. Or perhaps you have been in denial about the infidelity.
Being the cheater in your dream
To dream that you are the one having an affair suggests feelings of self-guilt and self-betrayal. You have compromised your beliefs or integrity. Sometimes the cheating may not be about your relationship, but rather a situation where you cheated or where you were being dishonest.
Alternatively, your affair with someone else may be about some quality in this person that you need to incorporate or acknowledge within your self. For example, if you are cheating on your mate with your boss, then the dream may signify your desires for control, power and authority.
Cheating dreams may also reflect the intensity of your sexual passion; you are exploring areas of your sexuality. In this scenario, the dream may serve as a reaffirmation of your commitment to your relationship. If you are approaching your wedding date, then it is not uncommon to have dreams about erotic experiences with partners other than your intended spouse. Such a dream represents the newness of your sexual passion. It is important to note that such a dream does not mean that you will stray or that your dream is telling you that you are with the wrong person.
Another dream interpretation of your infidelity suggests that your needs are not being satisfied by your significant other. As a result, you start to look elsewhere. You feel that there is something more out there.
Even though dreams about cheating are hardly about actual cheating, it is still important to address the emotions that brought about the cheating dream. Feelings of neglect, insecurity and mistrust are things that should be confronted and discussed in any personal relationship for the partnership to grow. It is time to let your guard down and open a dialogue with your significant other.